Have you ever felt that you took a step backwards in your life or feel that you failed altogether? The truth is…there is no failure. We all have things to learn and experience in this world and we will repeat the same patterns until we understand their lessons. If we do happen to take that backwards step we’re usually the ones hardest on ourselves. The stigma of disappointment and shame we inflict on ourselves and not that of repeating the lesson is what we must overcome. It’s been said that there is no judgement in the afterlife, so why are we so eager to judge in this one?
I’ve recently been witness to person who was struggling and had little. The saddest thing isn’t that their means are so scarce that they couldn’t afford to purchase a cold drink on a hot day, but the shame they felt once they realized they didn’t have enough money. It was obvious that this individual believed that they weren’t as good as other people by the way they began apologizing for wasting the cashiers time. This isn’t the truth though… everyone has value and meaning.
It’s apparent to me that it is easy for us to pass judgement on others because we’re constantly judging ourselves. We recognize our perceived failures and shortcomings in someone else and become critical. We see someone struggling with issues that we’ve got figured out and can’t imagine why they’re having such a difficult time. We are way to hard on ourselves and by extension others. I think it’s time we gave ourselves and others a much deserved break and remember that we are all in this together. We have far more in common than we realize and I’d like to think that a kind word and a smile is the easiest way to heal our world.